Is my BF hiding something?

[JadeShark]

Help - I need advice. Something isn't feeling right in my stomach about my bf. I had a dream that I found texts between him and an ex-girlfriend. It kept bugging me and had made me insecure so I ended up going through his phone (for only about 10 mins - not a deep dive) when he was sleeping and didn't find anything. He knew I'd done it in the morning because I didn't close an app, and he was so mad. He said I had no right, that that is his phone. He changed his password and said he's not sharing it with me after what I did. Do you think he's hiding something because of how he reacted, or is he right? I’m worried because I’ve heard people say things were revealed to them in a dream and I can't shake it! Haven't been the same since.

He's absolutely right. I would be very angry too in his position. You cannot snoop through his phone because you 'had a dream', that's madness.

I wouldn’t be surprised if he dumped you and he should.

On the basis of a dream? Wow! That’s insane.

What you did was batshit crazy if ti was just based on a dream. I hope he puts that down to a moment of madness.
But is there more to this?

If you're going to snoop you need to be stealthy ;)

I agree with your bf. You had no right to do that and you appear to be insecure in the relationship to the point of acting very strangely on the basis of something which popped into your head in a dream.

You aren't allowed to go snooping on people's phones for no reason. That is a total invasion of privacy

I've always been of the opinion that what you dream about is related to something that you are thinking about or worrying about, or something that has happened in your waking life: that it is your subconscious thoughts that manifest themselves in your dreams.
So I wonder if this ex girlfriend has been on your mind for some reason and that you have some concerns that he still has feelings for her. And that's why you had the dream.
Has his behaviour been worrying you lately?

You're acting crazy. You can't make accusations based on a dream.

Come on. That's a massive breach of trust. You don't go through someone's phone because you had a dream then use their reaction as justification they must be hiding something. I'm surprised he's still your bf to be honest. You sound incredibly immature.

You had a dream. Like, for real? That sounds like nonsense. You're insecure, you snooped and you found nothing. Of course he's mad. If it was me I would dump you because no trust means no relationship.

How long have you been together?
Has he shown any suspicious behaviour?

I wonder if your intuition is telling you something. Quite an overreaction on his part. Some dreams seen so real.

We don't care if the other one checks our phones but some people obviously do. There's nothing on it I would be hiding from dh

I think he should be concerned with reassuring you it was just a dream. But I seen to be in the minority.

If you had genuine concerns then fair enough, but a dream, seriously grow up!

Unless he's done anything to raise doubts (before the dream), you're being crazy

Last night I dreamt I was at a one of Paris hiltons parties and jumped out of a window with my beer. I don't think it's prophetic.

Oh my. this is on the same level as that woman who accused her boyfriend of cheating because his horoscope said he’d be meeting a special someone

Jesus Christ, you need to fix those insecurities rather degrading yourself by acting with such a spiteful attitude,

Hi OP. I don’t agree with most of the other posters, probably because of my own experience. I had been with my DP for 6 years, trusted him completely, never checked his phone . Exactly like you, had a dream one night he was cheating, woke me up in the middle of the night. Thought I was being silly, was just a dream, went to the loo, had to walk past his phone on the way back, something in my gut just told me, you have to check. Ended up finding a whole web of horrific mess. Spent 2 hours looking at it all, was extensive, multi apps, multiple women. When i had seen all I needed to see I went totally mental at him, woke him up, he admitted everything, much more to my story but imo if your gut tells you something is wrong go with it. I think sometimes dreams are our sub consensus telling us what our brains are thinking. Now I look back there were signs, I just didn’t see them at the time

I agree with this.

i have absolutely nothing to hide but would instantly dump anyone who thought they could go through my phone like that.

I would be furious with you. This behaviour based on a dream is not ok.

I think there might be more to this than the dream. You say you have a gut instinct something isn't right. Listen to it.

He’s absolutely right to be angry. You violated his privacy on the basis of a dream you had.
He's entitled to have private conversations with others without you snooping.
To be honest, if my partner did this to me I’d genuinely consider leaving him.