Hi all, just need other's views. My (38F) partner (32M) have been together for 11 years. We have 3 children under 8.
It was my birthday a week ago and my partner treated me and our children to a fab day out and dinner. Afterwards, he asked me to sort some music on his phone. A message popped up while I was doing so and I saw it was another girl from his work. It sounded inappropriate and so I didn't mention it but checked later when he was in the shower. It's been playing on my mind since.
She told him she had a sex dream about him. I doubt she knew it was my birthday when she sent it but she shouldnt have sent it anyway. That seems inappropriate to send to a married person.
There aren't many messages between them and he isn't ever late home, guarded with his phone, etc. They only have each others numbers as they call for issues while at work. He is an attractive guy and I think he hasn't told me because he wants to protect me from worry. Also, I suppose telling me would sound egotistical. But it's been bothering me. He showed little interest and laughed it off in his response but I can't help but feel disrespected by this girl. I'm feeling quite angry and don't want to show it to him so I suppose I will keep an eye quietly but wondered whether anyone had experienced this before and whether there is any advice?
Has anyone had to make their presence known before? And most importantly, am I right to be annoyed by her? I see it as highly inappropriate and her trying to initiate something.