Sorry - long rant! My H and I have been together 30+ years, 2 DC in teens/20's. We have been lucky enough to have come back from a long trip abroad, which was really great, and we had a wonderful time together. But now we are back he is so clingy (its only been a week). A few days before we came back he said how much he had loved "having me all to himself" - and tbh my alarms bells were ringing as this has been a bit of an issue before. I am self employed and have a massive catch up to do with both with work/clients/admin etc, and of course also with my kids, parents, friends etc as well. I've had a busy week since we have been back - but I've been home every evening. My husband has done a few days work but is not back full time for another 2 weeks. He has been super off with me for days, making guilt tripping comments all the time like "don't forget about me", "I want to be back in xxx, you were really affectionate to me then", "you're not bothered about me now we are home", "we haven't had any alone time" (he means sex). Last night he said to me that I should be spending more time with him, that I seem to be avoiding him, going to work earlier than I need to (I have gone 45 mins early a couple of days so I can go to the gym) and I can't be that busy as I have had time to meet a friend for a walk and have my hair cut (when I could have been with him). He also said I didn't seem enthusiastic when he mention a summer holiday (a - we had said we weren't having one this year, b - this was 2 days after we got home c - he has NEVER done anything to book holidays and I don't have the capacity to think about this right now). He also said that when he goes back to work fully I should plan my work days to match his days off (he works a lot of weekends and has some week days off - I do try to have at least one full day off with him but I cannot run my business to suit his days off, and this first week back that simply wasn't an option). He always to know what I am doing work wise - I can't just say "going to to work in my office" - he wants to know when I have a break in the day, and I feel like I have to explain what work I am doing (ie admin, client work etc). Then this morning he was up, dressed and ready for work - I was on my laptop in bed. He came back into the bedroom just as I messaged my DD to see if she wanted a tea (she was getting up for work), I offered him a tea too. I was gone less than 2 minutes and when I came out of the kitchen he was putting his shoes on and storming off to work early saying "I came back to sit in bed with you and you left". I know he is having the "trip come down" but this clinginess is not new. It has the opposite effect to what he wants as it makes me anxious to be near him. I need to set boundaries and have a conversation but really struggle to do this - I will either get guilt tripping or anger. I now feel like I am walking around on eggshells, looking at my diary for next week and considering what things he will get shitty about me doing, and I am not wanting to spend time with him now as I feel it is not my option now and I am only doing it to avoid his reaction. I can't live with wondering if making a cup of tea with my daughter will get that sort of reaction. He thinks he is being totally reasonable.