AIBU?

[danid26]

Hi all,

Long story short, my brother in law has recently moved in with us due to his wife leaving him. He has been here for two months, still has no job, we are paying for everything for him at this point as he has no money, and he seems quite happy to sleep in until 1 in the afternoon most days. Does no cooking and lazes around all day. I have a 2 yo DD, my DH has recently just rebought a PlayStation which they seem to sit and play on all evening together, and I've just found out BIL has been eating edibles in our spare bedroom and stashing cannabis in the park nearby. I'm starting to feel really p*ssed off about it all, and feel the word vomit coming on at both of them, as its not the sort of thing I want around DD or in my house plus the fact hes a lazy bastard! And my DH doesn't seem too care less! AIBU?

YNBU! It's a tricky situation when it comes to family moving in with you, because you want to help and support them but you shouldn't feel uncomfortable in your own home!

Have you asked if he's got a plan of action?

It's also good to set up boundaries. For example telling him he can stay if he's actively trying to sort out his current situation and doesn't keep edibles in the house? It might seem harsh but eventually the line between wanting help and taking advantage of it becomes very thin!

I hope your BILs situation gets sorted soon for him and yourself. I can't imagine how awful divorce must be. Just remember you're doing the right thing by supporting him because that's what family is for. Also theres absolutely nothing wrong with you putting boundaries in place to give yourself peace of mind💐