Not even sure how to feel. My MIL has always been a narcissist, she was awful to my DH as a child, he's the non- favourite child too( example was she put a bowl of hot soup over his head when he said he didn't like soup, always putting him down, he was a wreck when I met him at uni.
She's always been a queen wasp, thinks she's better than everyone else. Since us having children she's been very 'waspy' with them as they've got older, to the point where she's been direct, upset our children and I've walked out, taking the kids/ DH etc home.
DH has literally lived with this regime since birth and can't handle her at all, she is enabled by everyone, or, they ignore her / don't visit, they at in their 70's now with very few friends or family who visit. Got a rare meeting tomorrow, MIL will likely have limited life as she's got a terminal medical problem that will blow at any time. FIL is nice, but enabler and very weak, so useless.
I'm persona non grata as I won't put up with her being a bitch to my children. I'm getting to the point where I just don't want to visit, but tomorrow it's been my, DH and DC birthday this last month and they want us to come visit - I just can't face it. If I don't go, The kids won't go either. I feel for my DH as it's his mum and she's dying but I'm not exactly well myself and it's a lot of energy for me to go, but I'd never stop him from being with his mum.
Not sure what I'm asking for. I know DH is a problem for putting up with it, but as my counsellor has said, he's literally born and grown up into this so it's hard for him, plus it's his mum. Ug - kind or supportive words will be well received. I've been here 30 years I have had a full history, much of which is marred or spoiled by her behaviour