Confused about online date

[ThatCoralBiscuit]

I 've been messaging somebody who I met online for about 3 weeks now. Its been pretty intense messages all day long, video chats. Two dinner dates and he even came to see me when I was taken ill this week.
Suddenly last night he starts to say that he has been making mistakes at work, and is going to try to call it off, because he thinks about me all the time and he keeps on getting distracted.
Additionally, he says that his heart want to start talking with me but his head is telling him to call it off. He is autistic and he had a very messy breakup from his marriage two years ago because his wife had an affair. He is saying he does not want to call it off but feels like he has to. He also objects to my work which is in the private sector and he is very much a true socialist.
We were texting until 1am today and he has texted a little bit today but not nearly as much as usual but he at least hasnt cut off contact completely. He is avoiding the question about what he wants to do. Any advice? I am feeling distraught because I really like him but I don't want to scare him off

@ThatCoralBiscuit this sounds very intense for someone you’ve known for less than a month. New relationships should be easy and fun, this sounds like it’s already becoming challenging and that’s never a good sign. He’s playing games, intentionally or not, throw this one back before you get too invested and end up getting really hurt.

Sounds waaaaay too much too fast.

Take a huge step back and occupy yourself with something else.

There was another 'autistic' man in a thread a couple of weeks ago who had a similarly intense start and then backing off behaviour. All related to work. He's not on the rigs is he? 👀

In any case. Lovebombing and backing off, it's not good. Disentangle yourself unless you want to be given the run around for ages. Do you have that kind of time to waste.