I've been with my other half since I was 17 (13 years) so I don't know how men work. Is it normal behaviour if they suggest something, especially in a way that suggests I should have thought of it myself, and if I don't do it, I know he'll get angry. I feel like my choices aren't mine anymore.
It all blew up today. I was getting ready to bring my 11 year old to a birthday party. My main focus was him and washing up a little bit so my house wasnt a mess. Other half was still in bed so I didn't think he was coming. Last minute he decides he wants to come. He likes me to do my hair and make up when we go out together. But we were already running late and didn't have time. I fixed my hair the best I could, but when I came downstairs, he looked at me funny and said "You're not doing your hair and make up?" This annoyed me as I was already running late, this wasn't planned and it was just about getting my 11 year old to school.
It culminated in a big row with me thinking that he thought I looked bad, and him confirming it (out of frustration). He did apologise after. He knows I suffer from poor self esteem and says he's disgusted by this, and its a turn off, but doesn't stop himself saying things that bring down my self esteem.
Am I in the wrong? Have I just over reacted because I'm sensitive to thinking I look bad. Some help would be appreciated because I'm so lost and don't know what's normal anymore. Please be kind, I'm feeling very low right now.