Not sure how to explain but here goes. after a discussion with my children, where the subject of child abuse came up (there was something on the news) I repeated it to my partner who completely blew his top because he's fed up of always hearing about this subject- due to myself being affected as a child. It's true this has caused problems in the past but I try to keep things to myself. I've had counselling plenty of times but find age does not improve things. I find myself wanting to blurt out everything to my kids and all my family (only a few know). It's as if I tell myself to keep quiet to keep the peace which I think I have possibly to my detriment. You are told not to keep secrets but on the other hand please don't say anything as it will upset people. I told my husband I don't expect him to fix it but also I don't have a manual explaining how to deal with it. We are now not talking in separate sides of the house.