So a married older coworker had, in my opinion, been sexually harassing me at work. I noticed he looked at me in a leery creepy way, he’d make sexual innuendos over innocent things I said and after connecting with me on social media, he bombarded me with sexual memes, reels and jokes. I’d mentioned at work that my partner and I wanted to start trying for another baby soon and this man sent me some extremely disturbing reels to the tune of “how politely people tell others they’re trying for a baby vs how there ravaging each other in bed”.
I asked him to stop sending me sexual content and he acted like it was all just a joke and I was being sensitive. For a period, he was ok, but overly friendly and after a while he went back to sending sexual content so I blocked him on all platforms, and told him via message before the block I was doing so to set a boundary because I wanted the sexual content to stop and only spoke to him when necessary at work. I was debating reporting him for sexual harassment and then he took a job elsewhere and moved companies.
This was last year, now I’m heavily pregnant on mat leave and I yesterday received an insanely aggressive email from him after something like 8 months of no contact, with him accusing me of telling his wife he sends sexual content to women online and slandering him to some other woman. He said it’s a “blatant lie” that he messages women sexually and he will go to the police and his lawyer for “harassment and defamation”. He then said, arrogantly that he expected an apology from me in response because I was being "wholly unacceptable". Wtf?
It wasn’t me that contacted his wife. Clearly, he’s pissed off someone else by being a dirty creep but his tone was so arrogant, nasty, and aggressive. I really can’t be dealing with the stress of this right now. I responded firmly saying it wasn’t me, he was being delusional, and he should leave me alone but I’m also pretty angry at the fact that this man literally sexually harassed me for an extended period and now he’s acting like a victim, and that I am some “crazy” woman harassing him. This man is also unattractive AF.
I debated tracking down his wife on Facebook with all his disgusting screenshots, telling her I had nothing to do with whoever else contacted her but that I felt she’d want to know. Or should I leave it and not get more enmeshed in their drama? I feel like I'm already being dragged in and I wasn't even messaging his wife! I'm so mad at the way he spoke to me!
It was not one or two sexual messages, he was bombarding me with constant streams of disgusting things for months and months and trying to turn conversations sexual and pervy despite being repeatedly asked to stop. I would personally want to know if DH was doing this, though I know he would not.