been with partner for 10 years and we always go through “dry spells” where we don’t have sex for months then we may have it one night and then nothing again for months and the longer it goes without us being intimate i become more withdrawn from our relationship and i find it harder to be intimate again as it’s been so long since we did. i find it hard to get back into the swing of things if that makes sense. I do wish things would be more romantic sometimes as majority of the time it’s “shall we have sex” and i don’t get excited from that. ide like it to naturally happen because we both want to and because we’re feeling connected. When we are intimate it’s the same position everytime and i try to suggest other ones but he says no. he doesn’t seem to want to see my face when we are intimate so i get the feeling that he just wishes it were someone else he was doing it with. Most couples i know are being intimate 2-3 x a week and i feel like it’s once every couple months for me if im lucky. we go for weekends away too and have the best time but sex doesn’t happen. I just wandered if maybe im the issue? should i lose some weight maybe? we’re both 30