Friend blabbed my business

[IDontLikeMondays88]

I have a very close friend who I confide in about most things. Recently I have been chatting to her about my little one’s behaviour which has been very challenging and which I’ve been struggling with. I was looking for some advice on how to deal with this although I have since realised that really only I can decide how to deal with it as I know my child best (as an aside).
I have now realised that she has been chatting about this to at least two other mutual friends (one of whom I definitely wouldn’t have confided in myself). She has been very matter of fact about it along the lines of “I was chatting to x about what has been going on with DS…” like she thinks this is fine.
I don’t think this is fine really and now regret asking her for advice - it has really irked me and is making me re-evaluate things. Maybe if she had mentioned to it to friends I don’t really know I wouldn’t bother but these are mutual friends one of whom in particular I’m not close to.
am I being to touchy about this? Would you be fine with it? I haven’t challenged her on and probably won’t - I will just be very careful about what I share going forward

I think it sounds within normal conversation topics. How others' kids are doing and the vagaries of bringing up children. I don't expect it is particularly high currency stuff, but has come up as you're all parents who live locally.

I honestly get it. My mother can't keep anything to herself at all. She must repeat everything verbatim to someone, it's weird and you're left feeling quite exposed after quite a personal conversation. Needless to say we now barely speak. But as a PP says, we have our own ideas on what we'd like kept confidential.

Next time, if you feel like giving her another chance 'well nothing personal but can we keep this between you and me, just a quick vent?' 'great. Bobby has been XYZ again...'.

I wouldn’t be ok with this either OP

So a split between being a bit touchy and not 🙂

the people she told were parents with much older children ie teens where as my little one is 5 so I don’t really feel it was about sharing experiences - as they are much further on in the parenthood journey.

it was said along the lines of oh I told x what DS has been up to. I was saying to her that because my own child doesn’t do y I don’t really have advice for you.

which I suppose also made me feel that she was kind of comparing and saying her own child better behaved or that DS is particularly wild.

still very unclear on her motivation for telling me that at all. If she doesn’t have any advice and the person she told doesn’t have advice then why say to me they were discussing it and don’t have advice 🤪

anyway lesson well and truely learned. She is a very close friend so I am not really going to make a stand over it but I need to assume anything I tell her however mundane/boring might be shared.