Military Girlfriend

[pinkqueen24]

Hi,

I've been dating this guy for 2 weeks. Let's call him 'J'. J told me within 1 week of dating that he is applying to join the military here in the UK. I have no past experiences or know anyone in the military. At first I was a bit overwhelmed and like confused. I had all these questions of like what does that even mean, or how often do you see each other, is this forever. He hasn't gone yet but if you have any advice or experience being a girlfriend with someone in the military please I would like to know your stories.

You are way too worked up for 2 weeks in. How old are you both? If he's joining th emilitary, he'll have to go trhough some kind of application process. Then, one assumes, some sort of training. It can be a complicated life, sure, but I really don't understand whyyou're this worked up this early on in the relationship?

2 weeks?! Where is he from and how did you meet? Has he asked you for any money yet?

Maybe try the 'Forces Sweethearts' board for views or to read threads to see what it's like.

It is very early days if you've only just started going out and he hasn't joined up yet, though.

Have you actually met him?

Very early days.

I'd take this to mean he doesn't want a serious relationship at the moment. But he's being honest.

Its acknowledged that initial training is a massive test on relationships. The statistics from when DH did his was "80% start with a girlfriend/boyfriend, 20% finish with one and many of those are not the same ones".

Have you met him? Where is he living now?

Joining the military is a test for even established relationships.
I used to date a few military men (sometimes simultaneously) but vowed never to get serious with one. Its not a life I would want for myself or my DD.

Two weeks?

Well it is way to early to really think about this but if you know that you wouldnt want a life where your partner is away a lot then I would pack it in now. Of course, he may not even get accepted by the forces.