I am just feeling down, at this point in life I'd hoped I would be free to do things for me but it just seems the opposite. Recently downsized but our early 20's son with medical needs is with us and probably always will be. He does uni part-time and will hopefully get a part time job after but we can't see him moving out for a long time, he tried uni accommodation last year but only stayed one night - it was an expensive night!
Our daughter just completed a very intense uni degree, she struggled with mental health through it and I lived with her for 3 months in another city to keep her on track so she could finish. She is now working but in a very full on environment and not well paid, and her confidence isn't great so she needs a lot of support, both financially and emotionally. She is also currently flat hunting.
On top of this we sold our dream home that we built to move to the city our son is at uni at. We bought a new place that needed work, most was done whilst we were renting but we moved in 2 weeks ago and still don't have a kitchen - tomorrow they promise me. It's nice, not great, has stairs which isn't great for any of us and a big step down in space, and garden which makes me saddest.
On top of this is my dad, he lives 4 hours away, my sister lives in the same town now, she moved back there from overseas after mum died (another story) and thankfully keeps an eye on him but I do all the admin - care packages, scooters etc. His dementia is getting worse but he won't move into a facility, he is in housing association so he's worried where they'll put him. He is stressing my sister out and she rings me weekly in tears wanting to leave the small town we grew up in and I don't blame her.
Feel stuck and need some camaraderie. Sorry for the rant.