Partner never listens to me & it’s getting me down

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my partner never listens to me & it’s getting me down. I could have a conversation with him about something serious & then 10 minutes later he will ask me something that i’ve just already told him. Or for example i told him i was getting my wax out as i wanted to wax my eyebrows, 15 minutes later he asked me what i was going to wax. this is a daily occurrence and I know people are going to say it’s a man thing but i feel like on a daily basis im not being heard and i feel unimportant and like i shouldn’t even talk to him anymore as he never listens anyway. Is there anything i can do about this to make things better?

I don't have any advice unfortunately as its the same here. Just makes me feel lonely however when he wants to blabber on about his interests he wouldn't like it if I didnt actively listen! I've not communicated this though really. Do you tell him how it makes you feel?

it does make you feel lonely doesn’t it. I’ve just had a conversation with him about it and he said it doesn’t mean to he just zones out and sometimes forgets things and he’s saying he thinks he has short term memory loss which i highly doubt but whatever helps him sleep at night lol :/

Gosh, same thing here only that in my case I am sure it's because he doesn't value what I say.

Which makes me feel very devalued.

Does he listen to anything? For example, you're worried about a big meeting or are going away for the weekend or your mum is ill?

He might not have a great short term memory.

Is he forgetful generally? Does he misplace or lose things more than the average person you think? Being reported as a dreamer at school, that kind of thing?

yeah he’s forgetful quite often, often misplacing things and forgetting where he put them and losing things. i’m not sure on the school thing as we’re both in our 30s now

Has he always been like this or is it something that's come on recently? Might it be possible that he's ill? Perhaps both of you need to visit the doctor for a check up?

hes been like it for months but it’s gotten worse and yes i agree. i think a check up is needed