Silent treatment

[EllaS94]

Does anyone else’s partner give them the silent treatment for days on end?
I’m getting really tired of it. I’m autistic and I really struggle with things like this. He pick an issue with something and then not speak to me for days (we live together and have kids together so it’s really awkward) I don’t like it at all.
I will try and speak to him and he gives me 1 word answers and makes absolutely no attempt to look at me or speak to me for days. We’re currently on day 2 of him not saying a word to me and I don’t even know why. Last week he didn’t speak to me for 3 days because I disagreed with something he said about parenting. It’s at least once a week he will go a day or two or even three without saying a word to me. It’s making me very frustrated and sad.
does anyone else’s partner do this and how do you resolve it? It can genuinely be over something so small and he’ll pick at something almost to have an excuse not to talk to me. I’m so sad I’m on egg shells all the time and I have to be so careful with anything I say incase he doesn’t like it and gives me silent treatment again.

I would never be with anyone like this ever again. I put up with this from my ex and it was torture.. I once had silence for almost 4 weeks. Other times I would be told he would talk when he was ready. It nearly broke me but in the end I started to detach during his silence and then I was finally ready to cut him off.

Luckily we didn’t have kids as I would never accept this behaviour around them.

Leave him unless he can learn to communicate as it’s not good for you or your kids.

I consider this behaviour utterly cruel and nasty.

You tell him in no uncertain terms that you will not put up with his childish bullying behaviour and if he doesn’t stop at once, the marriage is over.
And mean it.
He’s doing it because he’s a twat that doesn’t care about you or his children.
Be angry and unless you are actually afraid of him, don’t tiptoe on those eggshells, bloody stamp on them!
Also grey rock his arse off.

This is abusive. You must escape this relationship. Don’t let him confuse you by telling you that you “don’t understand “ or he “just needs space” or whatever other lies he tells you. Maybe he dazzles and confuses you by being occasionally nice but the real him is cruel. Please end this and get out safely and find someone who loves you and wants to connect with you.

It's abusive.

This is abusive behaviour from him and your relationship is now over as a result. This is who he really is and he will not change. Do not put yourself here at any more risk, he will not listen to you. It is not your fault he is like this towards you. These types of men hate women, all of them.

It will emotionally harm your children further if you continue to raise them with your abuser. They must not grow up thinking their dads controlling behaviour towards you is normal.

How can you be helped into leaving your abuser? Engage help from Women’s Aid and a Solicitor too, they can also help you.