This is how the convo went.
Him: “What takeaway do you want?”
Me: “I’m happy for you to choose.”
Him: “I would rather you chose.”
Repeat at least 4 times.
So…
Me: “I don’t want xxxx takeaway.” (doesn’t have anything I like but he loves it)
Him: That’s what I wanted.
Me: “Well I’ll have it then.”
Him: “Not now I know you don’t want it.”
Arggghhhhhh
Not an isolated incident and if he was otherwise a good partner and Dad I would just laugh it off but he’s a completely selfish person! But genuinely wondering if people think the same as me and that if he had something in mind that he could have just said? Or maybe I should have offered a suggestion instead of saying something I don’t want? But the truth is there are at least another 3 places that I would have been happy to have.
My reaction may be over the top because I’ve had to wake him up for work every day this week and he spent 3 hours asleep on the sofa yesterday evening leaving me solo parenting even though he works 7 hours a day sat on his arse. Oh and I spent some money with the kids today and he had the cheek to say “Oh you been spending while I’m at work.” I responded that he doesn’t support us financially and that it’s my money and that I’m not sitting in the house doing nothing just because he’s at work. Oh and he wouldn’t let our son go on the Xbox because he was watching the football but then went upstairs in the middle of the match for a bath 😂 couldn’t make it up.
In case anyone tells me to leave him, it’s my house, I’ve told him it’s over, he can’t afford to leave, I know I can change the locks, I know I need to be stronger but I’m working my way up to it.