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Sporadic contact from man

5 replies

Sunshine386 · 15/03/2025 16:02

Went on a couple of dates with someone a few months ago. It seemed to be going well and I thought it could be promising, then he suddenly had a last minute work trip that he was going to Dubai for a month or so for, which he didn't know about until the last minute.

We were in touch at first while he was away but then he stopped messaging. He returned about 6 weeks ago and has only just got in touch with apologies saying he'd been busy. However in that time I'd seen he'd made a new profile on a dating app I've been on.

I've been burned many times in the past and this kind of inconsistency simply just puts me off, but I don't know if I'm overthinking or expecting too much from someone that I went on a couple of dates with. It puts me off that he hadn't got in touch sooner. I'm looking for a relationship so consistency is really important and I've recently had a few dates with a great guy who things are going well with so far so I think I'm better off with that.

Would you bother responding to this other guy?

OP posts:
Maitri108 · 15/03/2025 16:04

I'd move on, it looks like he is.

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 15/03/2025 16:33

Leave Dubai Dan to it.
You’re not a drop-in centre.
Hope things go well with the newer one. Pace yourself.

frozendaisy · 15/03/2025 16:50

Sounds like his new dating profile hasn’t brought about any fun offers so he thought he’d try you again in case you were desperate!

You are a fall back plan at best OP.

Disturbia81 · 15/03/2025 17:47

frozendaisy · 15/03/2025 16:50

Sounds like his new dating profile hasn’t brought about any fun offers so he thought he’d try you again in case you were desperate!

You are a fall back plan at best OP.

All this
if you wanted fun then it’s ideal, but you don’t so bin this one. He’s not that into you.

Gymbunny2025 · 15/03/2025 17:52

Why are you even giving him headspace? It sounds like he ghosted you and you’re now seeing someone else. You owe him (nor want from him) nothing! Just delete him

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