I’ve been dating a man for a short time and I’m going to end the relationship, but he’s making me question myself. He keeps messaging constantly. If I’m busy, I could be cooking or driving and don’t see his messages, he keeps messaging “Babe?” When I answer, he says he was worried. I got fed up of it today and asked why was he worried when he knew I was busy, he just wouldn’t answer at all, just kept changing the subject and when I persisted he kept saying I love you.
He also keeps saying I love you a lot, and asking me if I’m happy, do I love him and does anyone else love me? It feels like he’s so needy, it’s stifling. I’ve had a few messages where he says don’t leave me, or don’t replace me.
I met up with some friends (different area) and we all went out for dinner last night and I was staying in one of their houses overnight. My friend is a man, married and I slept in their spare room. The first message I had the next day from my boyfriend was, “did you cheat on me?”, “you just need to tell me”, “you went out with a man, you stayed at HIS house, you must have cheated”. I got so annoyed, I told him never to talk to me like that again. I’ve never cheated, and I’m sick of the way he has been speaking to me, I won’t put up with it. He just said “Sorry babe, won’t do it again”.
He feels so full on, it’s too much. I know it’s not right and I’m going to end it, but it’s making me question myself. Why is he doing it? Is it him or me that’s the problem? He is starting to creep me out a bit, I’m not sure how he’ll react when I end it. I know I should just block him and be done with it but is it me, am I the problem? It feels like such a head fuck. I don’t need him and he’s not adding anything to my life, apart from pissing me off. Why am I questing myself about this? Writing this down has made me realise how stupid I’ve been by staying with him for as long as I have.