Random one - I found a tattoo booking card

[FlakyBrickTiger]

This is so strange, I found a tattoo booking card for an appointment at a local tattoo shop. It’s next week and it says a deposit has been paid. My partner absolutely hates needles and would never dream of having a tattoo so why an earth would he have booked this? This is so random!! Surely it can’t be for him so what’s going on?

Where did you find the booking card OP?
Can't you just ask your partner about it?

I found it while I was snooping! We have some trust issues so I can’t really say I found it as it was in his bag. It’s makes no sense as he can’t even go for a blood test he is petrified of needles.

ask him?
or ask him if he wants to do something with you at the time and date and see his response?

is it for you?
one of your adult Dc if you have any?
a friend?
randomly picked it up (if possible)
the OW as let’s face it someone will be along to say this
or is he having a moment of madness/crisis and is just going to get one to surprise you

He's cheated before?

You could suggest going out/having lunch/brunch/cinema/shopping or anything else you would normally do in a day at the time of the booked in appointment and see what he says. If he goes along with the plan then you know the appointment wasn't for him. If he seems reluctant to do anything but doesn't come up with a reason why then the appointment may be his. 🤔

I've seen your other threads about your partner OP..
Surely ending the relationship has got to be better than the constant worry about his behaviour?

it’s been a hard few months, actually couple of years. I have nobody to talk to and just keep crashing into a brick wall with pain and upset. This is so out of character so maybe there is someone else along with all the other lies you have seen in my other posts.

Why are you staying with someone you so blatantly cannot trust? What kind of relationship is that? One of the core tenets of any healthy relationship is trust. The idea that you’re staying in one where you constantly snoop through his belongings looking for evidence of wrong doing is bizarre. If you do not trust him, then leave.

Just break up at this point. If you can't trust him and it's difficult, do you want that for the rest of your life? Would you tell your daughter to stay with a man she can't trust?

My other half is covered in tattoos but faints when he gets his bloods done - it's not impossible that it's for him.

Tuen up with the booking card and get a reduced price tattoo?

Go along to the tattoo studio at the booked time and date and see what’s happening

Say nothing and attend the appointment yourself.. See who shows.... Or park outside and hide...

How are we supposed to know what’s going on?? It’s an appointment for a tattoo.

What were you looking for when snooping?

If you don't trust him you shouldn't be with him.

OP's partner is a cocaine and alcohol addict. And she has previously suspected him of cheating.
She has every reason to be suspicious of her partner.

I hate having blood tests, i faint and have to have someone with me, even thinking about them makes me feel faint.

But i have 8 tattoos, its a different type of needle and i can handle the pain of them. They dont bother me having them done, so you never know he might be getting a tattoo for himself.

How would the majority of us know that 😆

Fair enough she can be suspicious but what is posting half a story here going to do? Surely she knows her options - do nothing, ask him, go to the appointment.

My husband hates needles, I'd say he is 75% covered in tattoos. But judging by other comments this is really the least of your worries.

This App is meant to support others not make them feel worse but thanks anyway. I wish I hadn’t bothered coming on here for some support.

Stop snooping and ask him and then work on your trust issues.

You didn’t ask for support - you said ‘this is so random!’ ‘What’s going on?’. We genuinely have no way to know what’s going on.

There was no context to your relationship in your post. If he’s a drug addict and a liar and treats you badly, I’d suggest leaving. You can do much better and it’s no life for you to have to be snooping in his bag and worrying all of the time! There’s much better out there.

OP has other threads about his behaviour.
You are as capable of finding those as I am.
OP is looking for support for a reason and perhaps you could try a bit of empathy for someone whose relationship is not that straightforward as " just ask".

Tattoo 'needles' are nothing like the needles used for blood tests or injections. It's a completely different process and a completely different sensation. I know loads of tattooed people who are scared of needles in a medical context - it's really not the same at all.

Even if your partner has always said he wouldn't have a tattoo, given that it's been revealed earlier in this thread that he's an alcoholic cocaine addict, I'd strongly suspect he could easily have made the appointment while off his tits and feeling super confident.

I assume you're concerned that he's cheating and the tattoo appointment is for another woman, but I really can't think why someone would be carrying their girlfriend's tattoo appointment card around with them, and if a girlfriend was trying to plant evidence for you to find, I doubt that's the item she'd have chosen.

That is weird, especially if he’s always been super against tattoos.
A few thoughts Could it be a surprise gift for someone else? Some people book tattoos as a present or to go with a friend. Maybe he paid the deposit for someone close?
That said, d if it’s really out of character, I think you’re totally valid to ask about it directly. It could be something simple, or maybe he's changed his mind about tattoos and hasn’t told you yet. Either way, it's better to clear the air than spiral into guessing.
Hope it turns out to be nothing shady.