What would be a neutral response to olive branch?

[NorthernLass50]

Long story short, after months of nastiness, mostly silent treatment and off-hand when having to communicate, toxic friend and colleague has reached out - no apology but ‘feels sad that things have come to this’.

I have worked really hard on myself to deal with this - both personally and professionally and have a more peaceful life.
I am all for being more amicable at work but do not want to resume the friendship outside of work.

How would you respond to keep things neutral, acknowledging the olive branch but keeping some distance?

"Yes, it's a shame"

‘All good things must come to an end’

Hmm, that’s a very passive aggressive message from this charming person, not taking any responsibility - I’m not sure it is a true olive branch and I’d be quite wary of it.

My guess is that self awareness and self reflection may not be their strong suit and they genuinely may not realise how their behaviour has impacted on you op. But that's not your problem - I think is just say that yes it's sad, but you hope you can move forward civilly in future so you can keep working together. And then leave it at that.

I'd be tempted not to reply. But if you have to, I agree that 'Yes it's a shame' is reasonably neutral. Or, 'As long as we're professional at work, there's no issue' which lightly lays down ground rules for no more poor behaviour in the work place.

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Would be my response

Agree with this.

If you wanted to be a bit more effusive, ‘Hi X, Thank you for reaching out. You’re right that it’s a shame. I’m hopeful that we can move forward with a positive and professional working relationship.’

But ‘yes it’s a shame’ about covers it!

I would say

I want to move on and going forward let’s be civil and professional. thanks for reaching out