Dad and son contact issue

[LucyLeah]

Hi all, I just need an advice on my ex taking our son 5yo to his parents for 1hr on sun afternoon.
Situation: So he can have every other weekend with our son. He can't make majority of the weekends ,due to work commitments. Instead of taking DS for dinner/activity locally at 4.30 until 6.30, I drop DS at his work for 4pm , takes 30mins drive, then he takes DS to his parents (this is where my ex is living) , 40mins drive from his work. Then he brings DS back home, 50mins drive. Can I challenge that? I want him to have a contact but if he can't take DS for the whole weekend, all this driving seems too much, DS often falls asleep.in a car on a way back home and i do struggle to put him to bed. Because he is not willing to do anything with his son locally he prefers just siting on a sofa at his parents for 1hr. contact at my property is not the option due to the issues we had in a past. Any thoughts on that? Or should I just ignore it ? Am I over the top?

Is there a court order in place? Just make your child being available for contact with the deadbeat on set days. It's on him to collect his child and actually parent him rather than sit on his arse.

He sees his son for one hour every other weekend?

Nope.

Give him some set days/times that your son will be available, and leave the rest up to him.

We are going for a consent order soon, so we agreed he's got every other weekend available to take if he can, half holidays if he can. All agreed with him and we are happy with the agreement, we just need court to aprove consent order. The option is there but he can't take most of the weekends so he chooses to take DS for 1hr on sun which is a part of his weekend as per parenting plan. I mean , this driving is a lot!!

So, parenting plan is in place and availability , I'm 100% supporting the contact. But most of the time he can't take DS. I also found out he is going for 3 weeks holidays to US with his mate. He is working so half of his AL will be gone.