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Girlfriend troubles

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ByWildSloth · 12/03/2025 05:03

We have been dating for half a year now, we have a strong connection in all ways, but she is not from UK she is Chinese and there is a bit of a gap between us culturally.

Recently she is set to see old friends from Hong Kong who live outside of London. We talked over the beginning of the week about her seeing them Friday then Saturday. I told her Friday works and we'll go out to dinner, then Saturday I probably help my mother in the morning, which meant I couldn't spend the day in London with them.

Well today I found out that she was going away for the weekend and I had the chance to go. But when I called her she was annoyed that I hadn't told her I might be able to take off and also if I could even come, saying her friends are specific in their plans and she didn't want to make a change.
She eventually apologized later when we were together. But did not go further to anything else of whether or not she'd even try to ask for me to come. I was excited to say I was available, and she was instead angry at me.
My two cents is that she wants quality time with her friends, maybe in their language it's easier than having to have me as a third wheel- which is what I feel like anyway now. I wish I wasn't available I'm the first place because it makes me feel awkward for whatever reason.
Anyone have any similar experience, am I just looking into things too much?

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NotTheDebtDoctorWithTheHungryScalpel · 12/03/2025 05:13

Her friends are there to see her, not have some partner of 6 months hanging around all weekend changing the dynamics.

Stop being weird and making her feel bad and just wave her off and wish her a lovely weekend.

Nicecuppatea2025 · 12/03/2025 05:14

Eh? Just let her see her friends. Why do you feel the need to tag along? Leave her alone!

Idontjetwashthefucker · 12/03/2025 06:29

Let her meet her friends alone, you weren't invited so stop trying to shoehorn yourself into her plans

Arseynal · 12/03/2025 06:56

I don’t really understand - you assumed when she said she was seeing friends this weekend she meant both of you - but she only meant her? I’ve been married 27 years and if I want to see old friends I don’t take my dh along. If I had a boyfriend of 6 months sulking into my meet-up with old friends he didn’t even know then I’d see it as the red flag it is. It’s not necessarily a language issue, although feeling obliged to translate “do you remember that night…” stories to someone who wasn’t there that night and knows none of the people who were is probably not what she was hoping to get out of her weekend.

StopGo · 12/03/2025 06:58

Are you both women? If so it could be that.

vodkaredbullgirl · 12/03/2025 07:03

Let her see her friends that weekend. You can go one weekend with out seeing her.

ACynicalDad · 12/03/2025 07:05

I’ve been with my wife nearly 20 years have a decent, but not fluent, grasp of her language. If she Wants to go out with her friends to eat her food and chat she’s more than welcome.

AllISeeIsTrees · 12/03/2025 10:25

I read that three times and still don't understand it. But whatever, she should go and be with her friends on her own.

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