So my husband purchased a car when he's paid his last car off saying it's going to start costing money bla bla.. he doesn't just want any it a jaguar expensive and expensive to maintain. we needed the 300 per month available in his account to remortgage and do much needed work on the property. Due to our age and outgoings we can only get low term mortgage he's 51 I'm younger but they go off the oldest apparently. Anyway he's done it even when I said he only uses the car to commute 8 miles per day and my car is outside daily accept Wednesday which he can take as his day off we could actually manage with one car. My car is a seat Leon and not good enough for him. I feel completely disrespected after I told him I don't agree with his purchase idea we needed the funds in bank he didn't need a new car we had already agreed we needed work on the house roof is desperate etc.
I bought him tickets for Cheltenham races for Christmas it's this week I've said I'm not going he can take someone else he says he's not going then. Now I'm really not happy with him right now and I don't want to go. Am I being unreasonable?
He's also pretty much a crappy husband and father long story but let's just say he's a fool does not look after child properly falls asleep continually and is always on his phon he works but does sod all else I work and do everything cooking cleaning shopping kids everything with them. I'm desperately unhappy. In short there have been other very selfish things over the years and I'm not even sure I want to stay with him. I just feel it's wrong to make big purchases without agreement. We both make other purchases like clothes toiletries etc but I see this as needed items I'm sure most people do not luxury items. like most people it's not easy were not well off we get by and not easy with nursery to pay etc . I just think he's extremely selfish especially when purchase is not needed but wanted. Thanks for reading.