Just that really.
For context, I've been married to a man from a Middle Eastern, Arab background for a couple of years. No children yet.
Last summer he graduated from medical school, in a European country where we were both living at the time. All was ok in the marriage, good communication etc.
In the summer holidays we went to his homeland to celebrate and of course to see his family for a few weeks. We stayed at his family home in order to maximise the rare time we get to spend with them. For various reasons they can't travel to us, so we have always travelled to them.
Becoming a doctor made my husband something of a minor celebrity in his hometown, it's very prestigious and a source of great pride for the family and neighbours etc. Everyone wanted a piece of him when we arrived last summer. Parties galore, and he was showered with gifts, attention etc. I totally understood and respected that.
However, what I didn't like was how I much I struggled to get his attention whilst we were around his family and friends neighbours etc back in his homeland. I'd have to call his name at LEAST 5 or 6 times before he'd even look at me. I was there for a few weeks and started to get quite depressed and homesick at him virtually ignoring me in front of his family. THEY didn't ignore me, but he did.
I told him I needed him to answer me when I'm speaking, that's just basic respect. I wasn't asking for anything special or unusual etc.
Over the last few months, back at home just the 2 of us in Europe, he's grown increasingly ignorant towards me. On his days off and weekends, he'll wake up in the morning and literally spend ALL DAY on video chats with his family. They are in his homeland and also some in USA.. When the ones in his homeland say goodnight, he immediately calls the ones in USA (who are still awake). He pressures me to engage in long video chats with them, likes aunts, uncles, cousins etc. Tonight, I arrived home after a long tiring shift at work (he's been off today) and I didn't even get chance to take my coat and shoes off when he was saying "come say hi to my uncle..", "say hi to my cousins" etc... I smiled and waved a polite "hello" but he was like "stay and chat"... sigh.
I feel like we are actually living with his whole extended family in our small flat, giving the fact that they're constantly on video calls. Even when he's not actively speaking with them, both sides keep the video going so can see each other and hear everything.
I find this too overbearing. I don't even have that much contact with my own family. How do I approach this?