Are any or all of these valid reasons to leave a relationship?

[Ft567]

... with a man, early 50s:

1. Closed off emotionally, can't talk about his feelings or tell me he loves me.
2. Can be quite belittling and critical of me in how I do things differently to him.
3. Drinks a lot more than I do, eg two bottles of wine on a night out. He wouldn't drink during the working week but often binges on a weekend.
4. We don't live together but each have our own flats in London - often says how bigger/better his is compared to mine.
5. Talks over me a lot, on the phone especially. I've told him this but he still continues.
6. A general air of superiority that makes me feel inferior at times.

Together a couple of years and am around the same age but I probably have low self esteem so can't judge if I'm a bit over-sensitive and if this is fairly normal.

Why are you with him? He doesn't make you feel loved, cherished and supported. So what's the point of him? Do you feel any relationship at all is better than being single? I'm thinking of the shit sandwich - you wouldn't eat it even it had some good points.

Yes, the first reason was good enough on its own. The second reason was good enough on its own. And so it goes on.

Your self-esteem isn't going to get any better being with a guy like this. He spends his time making you feel bad about yourself.

Do yourself a favour, do your self-esteem a favour, and end it.

If you’re feeling more negativity in a relationship than positivity, then it’s time to call it a day for sure , and you are OP ..
You say your self esteem is low ..
You need to work on yourself , I think GarrynotsoGorilla said pretty much the same , just used more words 😂
I always like to hear what he has to say for himself ..😊

I wouldn’t be with or be friends with anyone who belittles me.

raise the bar.

So why ask?

That's why things are so much easier when you don't rush to move in together, more easier to get rid.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I think you've answered your question here - these three things should form the basis of any relationship.

I immediately would wonder Op why you need permission from strangers to leave a relationship? you can end it for whatever reason you like.

Have you ever had therapy or counselling? Sounds like it could be really helpful - look back at where your low self esteem has come from, how to have better boundaries/ self belief and know you can say no when someone is unkind to you.

I actually dont think there is a lot to thin about. You have your own place - you haven't mentioned children so I'm assuming you don't have any together.
In that situation I wouldn't get past your 1st point without decided to end things let alone all the others.

I dont see why you would stay in a relationship with someone who clearly values you so little. Dump and run and enjoy being single for a while.

If the relationship doesn't make you happy, then that's all the reason you need.

Completely agree. You don't need to justify your decision to ANYONE.

I came on here to say this.

A relationship should make you feel good.
If it doesn't, what is the point?

Any reason is valid, and any of yours alone is enough to dump him

If he doesn’t make you feel loved and supported, it’s a bad relationship. It really is that simple.

You mention you have low self-esteem. Have you been in abusive / coercive relationships before? It sounds to me as if perhaps you don’t have a clear idea of what a good relationship is meant to look/feel like.

He's not the one for you. I suspect you know this.

I’m trying to wonder what his good points are?
Because his bad points are absolutely dreadful,

He sounds vile! If he doesn’t make you feel loved, cherished and supported what is the point of the relationship? It’s not giving you what you need. Does he have any good points?