is this a bad idea.

[shelleylou]

I was talking to a man a little while ago and he's going to come round later. I know hes got a kid with his ex. The problem is he stays at his ex's when hes working, who lives a few doors away from me! I wasnt aware of this at the time. He also wants me to keep it quite if anything happesn between us. Im thinking this is a bit odd. Advice please

stay away x

Definitely odd! Why on earth would he want to keep it quiet, unless there is someone else involved who shouldn't know about you?!

Its a bit odd, sorry, unless he is trying to protect her feelings if he was the one that ended the relationship.

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Thats what i was thinking. If nothing else it may cause a problem with his ex she lives literally 2 or 3 doors away from me. Im thinking of closing the blinds and not answering the door lol

From what he told me she keeps throwing him out. I've only seen him on my street once before when there was a party/bbq a few nights ago

if he hadn't told you to keep it quiet then I would say 'proceed with extreme caution if you really like him' but since he did, I would say 'he wants a bit of the other and nothing else - you will probably get hurt!'.

Not sure on this 1. when i split with my ex, i used to stay over (seperate rooms) as my DD was too young & he was too irresponsible for her to stay on her own.

However when new girlfriend came along this stopped. but there was nothing between him & me when i was there.

i could see how their set up might work, but as soon as he mentioned 'dont tell the ex/mrs' i think i would steer clear.

You could ask him why you cant say anything. There could be a perfectly innocent reason,(maybe she wont let him see kid if he gets someone else or maybe she might start harrassing you).

do you know his ex? perhaps you could find out if they have really split up.

good luck.

It was dont tell anyone. Shes that close would be easy enough for him to get caught coming to mine.

I dont know his ex i have an idea who it might be but i didnt see which house he walked into so no entirely sure.

Wiseria thats what im thinking. Ithink thres more to the situation that what has been let on.