Feeling trapped

[Milkshake23]

Hello.
i have no outlet to speak about my situation, so here I am.. husband of 10 years together for 18. Have a nearly 6 year old.
Found out in December he’s been online chatting to women on multiple sites including marital affair sites. I was pretty oblivious to it all until I opened the laptop to see he’d been on there ( we share this laptop ) but I don’t really use it. He does shifts so I’d home couple of days every week whilst I’m at work. Alarm bells went and I was shaking and felt sick. I then went on to find out he was on Telegram with an escort. Every social platform was used to access adult content including instagram.
when I confronted him he was shocked. It was like he was in a bubble of it. We were in a bad way and I was ready to leave. Kept apologising and saying he’s bored and the monotony of life blah blah blah
whilst I’m looking after our child 24/7 he works a lot of hours and on top was working every weekend over time for a year as we had some debts to pay. As soon as that was paid he starting using the money to pay for all this online. After the initial shock he asked what I wanted him to do and seemed remorseful and he’ll take himself off everything and wants his family.
however he carried on on Telegram until he realised and I knew and he started being more sneaky. I’m still here because my child and financial situation more importantly my child will be hurt.
he stopped everything for a week and now is on linked in saying he’s looking for job change, which yes he is but also randomly messaging women to get to know them better a giving his number to them. Being subtle about it how he’s approaching them but it’s obvious what he’s doing.
he’s been apologising the whole time but carrying on doing this.
i just feel lost and trying to get the courage just finish things. I can’t let him treat me this way. I just worry for my child and how deeply upset he will be and I have to watch this happen.
sorry I’m rambling on and it’s all a mess 😒

I can’t try to pretty it up, it’s a shitty place to be. But you now know not only what he’s been doing, but that he’ll just carry on doing it - and as you say, he’ll just get more sneaky about it. So you can’t trust him, and if you stay then things will never be right for you.
But don’t stay because of the finances - things might be tighter but you’ll manage. And don’t try to stay because of your kid - growing up in a bad place won’t do them any favours.
So you’ve got to choose between living with someone you can’t trust, who wants to stay but says he’s bored and just wants to get his end away any chance he can get - or getting advice on the practicalities of kicking him out. I’m sure there’s plenty of people on here who can advise you better than I could about some of those practical steps - but bottom line is that he’s had his chances and now you’ve got to look after you and your kid.

Thank you for taking the time to respond to my rambling. Your words are all true. I know what I need to do but I’m just in denial of reality I guess right now.

Take your time. Make a plan. When you're ready, share with close friends / family - I'd be amazed if they didn't help and support you, and telling people IRL will help you avoid the denial, and minimise the self-doubt that it's only natural to feel. But you know that unless you're one of those people who can choose to turn a blind eye and carry on a kind of fake life (and yes, there's plenty who choose to), you know what you need to do and that the only best time is sooner rather than later.

🙏🏽 Thank you