How do you know when the end has come of a relationship. Been married 16 years and have twins who are 10. Things haven’t been great for the last 2 years. Husband has lost all interest in making any effort at home. He’s so lazy, he’s addicted to his phone, even the kids joke that he’s always on his phone. He will help around the house but only when I ask him to. Our love life has got up and gone predominantly because I have lost any interest in it because I’m always exhausted from trying to keep on top of washing, cleaning, school runs, shopping, and I work 3 days a week as a nurse in a fast paced ward where you barely get time to pee let alone have lunch some days. I don’t want my marriage to end for the sake of the kids as I feel as much as my life would be better, it would be worse for them. They have stability here. If were to split I have no idea how he would cope on his own with them. They’re amazing kids but they can be hard work, both have high functioning autism. They like routine, they don’t like change. Do I just suck it up and put up with things as they are? We’ve talked at length, he knows I am at the end of my rope but he’s making no effort to improve things. I don’t think he has anyone else and he says he isn’t depressed. Keeps saying he’ll step up but I’m still waiting. And he won’t entertain marriage counselling, I’ve asked multiple times but he says that won’t help. Where do I go from here. Anyone else in similar situation?