Needing a bit of hand hold

[Whatthefork20]

So I’m going through a break up and it’s only been a couple of weeks since it happened so all very raw and fresh.

Friends asked me to go out last night instead of moping about the house and I ended up a bit merry.

Today I’m a bit hungover and feeling even more down about the breakup. Going over everything, blaming myself, could I have done that better or this better or what if I hadn’t said this or that.

It’s a bit of a grim day and I guess I’m just looking for a bit of support.

It will get better 😘

It's early days. Whatever you do do not contact him. I hope he's blocked on everything.
Your mates are right, do things that are fun. Stuff you maybe couldn't do easily as a couple.
Go to galleries, clubs, activities, pubs, restaurants you've wanted to visit or experience but either haven't for ages or never before.
Your mates seem nice and supportive, so suggest something fun you'd like to do with them.
Honestly don't worry. You've made the right decision. Stay strong. X

How you feel now has been magnified by the drinking.

It's like you push your brain up ⬆⬆ with the booze and then with the hangover comes the swing back low⬇⬇and you feel even more rotten.

Have a chat with your mates or family and have a laugh and something comforting to eat. It'll pass.

Your hangover will be making you feel so much worse about everything! Make sure you eat and drink, maybe have a bath, and watch some trashy tv.

Thank you so much! Everything you all have said is so true.

The day has dragged in which doesn’t help with having a 4 year old to look after ha!

First relationship after my divorce and I feel it’s hit me harder in a way. Hopefully tomorrow isn’t nearly as bad.

Thank you for your kind words.

How are you doing today @Whatthefork20? I'll hold your hand, I'm in much the same boat. First relationship after divorce, it only lasted a few months but I don't remember anything stinging quite like this since the heady relationships of my teens! It's also the first time I've ever been dumped! Feeling very down and sorry for myself today. I also have two young DC to look after, so I think I've been putting on a brave face over the weekend to be a fun mum. They've gone to school today and I'm crumbling a bit. One day at a time hey x

I feel much more human today but obviously still very down about the break up.

I didn’t expect a break up after my divorce to feel like this. But two breakups(included divorce) in 3 years is a bit much to take, so maybe that’s why.

It worse for me when my little one as away as all my focus goes on them but they aren’t here my brain goes into overdrive.

So I totally feel your pain.