Is this emotional abuse?

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I shared my feelings that my friend spoke to me in a way I didn’t like.

He said I was whining and made a huge thing out of it… how I should tell her etc. All I was doing was offloading and sharing my feelings. I said I won’t again then if you’ll just call me a whiner.

So he said he won’t tell me anything again. This is frustrating and unfair. Is this emotional abuse? I ask because this is one of many ways I’ve felt like my feelings have been shut down and belittled. Or am I just whining like he says?

Surely the answer is just to end the friendship or see the person far less if you don't feel like they're actually being a friend to you?

No point sticking a label on it. Of course emotional abuse can happen in all types of relationship.

This is showing lack of sensitivity and empathy in this person. I would recommend distancing yourself from them as this is not what a good friend would say. X.

Not everything needs to have a label.

This by itself, probably not. If it's part of a wider pattern, maybe yes.

But whether it is or not, if someone, whether friend or partner, treats you in a way you don't like and find disrespectful and unsupportive, you don't have to continue the friendship or relationship.

And if you later talk calmly to them about not liking how they've treated you and they respond in a disrespectful or unsupportive way, then that's a bigger red flag, and probably a hint to start thinking seriously about ending the relationship or distancing yourself from them.

"I won't tell you anything ever again" is very emotionally immature from him, so it would certainly have me making a note for the future to see if he always handled issues like this, and if he did, time to leave him.

I'm confused. Not sure if I've read the situation right: Are you discussing with your partner a fall out that you had with a friend ?

Ohhhh, that makes sense.

Sorry, op, I thought you were talking about a male friend.

Is this your partner you were talking to?

So complaining to him about a friend who has been nasty?

I don't know , OH used to be a bit like that until I told him I don't actually need a fix/advice (which was mostly crap as he doesn't understand how my work works) or a devil's advocate,just an outlet and a rant so I can work things out for myself.He took that on board and we haven't argued about this in years. It also helps that I do come up with solutions/sort things out rather than moaning about the same thing over and over again , without doing anything about it, which can be highly frustrating.