Parents in law currently live a flight away but they have decided they want to move because it's apparently cheaper here to get the house they want and because they want to be near their grandchildren).
I am so anxious about the move. We live near my parents already and they are very good about only helping when asked and not ever getting involved in our choices or plans.
PIL will want to see us as much as they possibly can. They are already offering to bring the dc to various saturday clubs but they are doing this to make our children like a carbon copy of their own children. I am so against this; they are our children and indeed their interests are NOT that of their father and uncle.
The problem is my Dh takes offence to anything I say about it regarding setting boundaries etc. It's like a personal slight for him. He will always take their side over mine and I am worried it is going to effect our already fragile relationship.