Confused

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I’ve been engaged for four years. We recently broke up and it was very toxic. We were separated about eight weeks. During that time I found out that she went out on a date. She kissed him and that’s as far as it went fast forward to the last three days we’ve been taking it slow And really having a good time like getting back to who we were in the beginning so this morning, she was leaving for a funeral and asked me to clean her AirPods as I went in her nightstand to find the kit that we have I find a box of unopened rubbers. I questioned her of course she said that we weren’t together, but she never used them and she was just keeping her options open as a single woman and if the case arose, she wanted to be protected I know technically we weren’t together. But I don’t know how to move forward. Any suggestions?

How many women did you sleep with while in a break? Be honest!

None of your business if you were broken up.

If you're going to have a problem with her dating and considering having sex while not together, then you might want to consider giving your head a wobble.

The only time you can expect an exclusive relationship is when you are actually in an exclusive relationship.

If you are broken up, that expectation is void.

It was technically none of your business but I get why you’re hurt.
My ex and I split for about the same length of time and I found out he went straight out and met up with someone he met whilst we were together and clearly fancied. It hurt and made me question whether I could actually trust him, and whether I meant anything to him. I didn’t have the right to complain as we weren’t together.
But the resentment built up, like it’s doing for you.
We’re not together. And unless you have a really honest conversation about where you’re going you’ll likely go back to that toxic place and split again. She hasn’t done anything wrong, but it’s ok to feel as you do and talk about it together.