My family hate me

[Runawaywonder]

Apart from my 5 year old that is. I don't really know why. I work full time, pay more than my fair share of bills, do all housework, running DC around. Dm hates me and I have gone NC with her this week. Dbro jumped on me this week because of lies DM told him. Dh hates me and nothing I do is good enough. Ds1 says I'm grumpy (probably because it's always me getting him out the door every morning, driving him around). If I didn't have my 5 year old I would just run away.

Sorry to read this...Why do you say your DH hates you?

Dh - the usual is because he can't understand why I don't come onto him, but his personal hygiene is very bad, why would I?! We've had 3 big arguments in the last 8 days on top of this.

OP. Can you consider separating?

Start with the easy ones.

If your relationship/him is that bad then maybe it's time to separate. You are probably grumpy because of having to live with DH and his disgusting habits so leaving DH would help with both relationships.

Can you leave? Do you want to?

Sit for a long moment and consider this.

A house that's just yours and your children's. No mum, no brother, no husband complaining about you or to tidy up after. No demands on your time.

Does this fantasy feel like a relief? Like freedom?

This could be reality for you. Yes getting there will be shit and require iron clad boundaries but it's possible.

Your son doesn't hate you. He's a child. He may be seeing how your DH and mother and brother treat you and see this is normal to him. If so, even more important to seperate from the toxic people in your life.