Myself and my OH have a 7 week old, I have 3 children from a previous relationship.
Things were amazing, I love this man dearly and he couldn't do enough for us. However since the birth of our son, things have started to go on a downhill slide. I know a baby can put pressure on a relationship anyway, we are both tired and were snapping at each other. I have now been diagnosed with Postnatal Depression and Anxiety, which has led to awful thoughts regarding what my future is.
OH didn't understand this, and became distant. This escalated to us arguing more to the point where he said he wasn't sure the relationship is what he wanted. He's since moved back to his mums, and wants space and time. I'm fully respecting his decision, however the uncertainty has made my anxiety go through the roof. I've clarified we're still 'in a relationship' and he is coming round regularly to help with our son.
He still wants space, however we're spending a lot of time together (playing on the playstation, watching tv, stuff that isn't related to my son) but any physical contact has stopped - no hugs, kisses, nothing. He stayed over last night to have the baby so I could sleep, but was adamant he did not want to even share a bed and stopped on the sofa with our son in his cot.
My anxiety is through the roof, which is delaying my recovery. I'm on antidepressants and sedatives. I'm shaking constantly and feel so on edge. I've tried speaking to him about what he wants and the response I get is "we're trying" I've agree space is what we need, but I really don't get his version.
Do I just need to give it time for him to come round? Do I need to be doing anything else? I fully respect his wishes and have been abiding to them in every respect, but can't help but feel it's already over.