Changes

[NeedyCrab]

Hi all .. I'm 9 month into a relationship now and I know honey moon period is over because things said are not the same ..like goodmorning beautiful and all sloppy love stuff .we still txt goodmorning and goodnight words are not the same from him.. I dont get I miss you no more and when he home from work he used to message home now with a love heart emoiji all that has stopped. He used to send me things in day like giffs with just a note to say I'm thinking of you. Non of that no more .

I don't think the honeymoon period is over after 9 months. Maybe he's messaging someone else so you aren't as important, don't mean that to sound offensive but men are quite simple, predictable and easy to read if you pay attention!

Certainly sounds like it is for him! It’s probably the beginning of the end if it’s happening so early.

Something has changed for him, clearly. What has he said about it?

I meant, the honeymoon period isn't usually over after 9 months!

Quite frankly I would find all that lovey dovey stuff suffocating. It means jack shit anyway. How on earth did relationships survive before mobile phones?

Glad I’m not the only one. Each to their own but I’d feel suffocated getting daily ‘love you miss you’ texts for months on end.

As you say it’s meaningless anyway

With respect that sounds like meaningless shite. What else did you do or talk about together? Do you still do that? Have you built more or was it just hearts and GIFs? Not much substance if so.

That would gross me out, man texting 'home now 💖', suffocating small talk and gifs?! Enjoy the peace.

If you want him to go back to texting often, have you told him this?

Does he make your life easier and fun?

If you want him to message you in this way and it’s important to you, tell him?
Do you do the same back to him? Maybe he’s sensed a changed?
You really need to communicate and tell each other what you need to feel safe in the relationship. And he’s not necessarily messaging someone else!
Go talk to him.

Bloody hell, I'd actually be glad that was over...I literally can't stand it when a bloke messages 'morning beautiful' (and such guff!) it's so patronising 🤮

However, I can totally understand that a sudden change in communication style could be concerning.