Is this normal or do I just not love him anymore

[HollyAnnLee]

I've been with my boyfriend almost 3 years and sometimes I get these massive feeling of love come over me when I'm with and then sometimes I'm doubting if I even still love him and should break up.. he's a good guy so why am I feeling like this one minute I love him so much the next I'm contemplating if I even do??
Has anyone ever felt like this and is this normal? I feel so bad

You're bored. There's something missing and whether that's you or him is for you to decide.

It could be that you're expecting this huge rush of love every time. That's unrealistic and you're setting yourself up for failure if that's what you need so many years in. Or it could be that there really is something missing in which case you need to figure out what's missing for you and communicate it.

I really don't feel like anything is missing, we speak so much communicate really well have the best sex life, he's attractive funny kind and likes majority of the things I do, we bounce of each other so much and are always laughing together hence why I feel so guilty

Can you imagine yourself with him in twenty years?

If the answer is yes, maybe you're just expecting that rush of love all the time and it's just not realistic. If no, there's something else and even if things are 'fine' you can just know if someone is not the one.

You do though, you feel like you don't love him.

Even if it's only sometimes, you still feel that.

So what you need to interrogate is why. What is love to you? Because I've found it's not really one feeling, it's a collection of them. It's safety, attraction, affection, does he make you laugh, are you compatible in the way you disagree, do you have the same goals in life, and happiness, among many other things.

Love is a compound feeling. It's why love is different with different partners. So what is missing, and most importantly, is it something you can live without.