my ma' doesn't talk to me.

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can't rlly go into that much detail but im neurodivergent and a son. everyday, i try my absolute hardest to get out of bed and get ready but i always do something wrong. she yells alot. yesterday though.. it all changed. she just doesn't talk to me. she only sends me text messages. this isn't a hard topic for me but i just wanted ideas on why my ma' is so ignorant on my blatant mental issues. also, tips on like.. how to cook good meals for myself would be nice.

(i have issues with eating with little to no variation at all.)

How old are you?

Sorry your mum is behaving this way. Hopefully she'll come round and start talking to you again soon.

Is there a safe adult you could talk to about what's going on at home?

What foods do you like? There are lots of recipe sites like BBC good food or YouTube tutorials that are quite easy to follow.

If you’re at school speak to your teacher.

ahh, im 13-16. currently, i don't really have anyone at school or home to talk to it about as it's also on my end but i do appreciate it.

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You could try to talk to your tutor or the pastoral care person at school. It doesn't matter if some of it's you acting out or whatever, it's good if you can acknowledge your part in it, if any. It sounds like you and your mum might need a bit more support.

I think you should try to talk to your mum and ask her how she's feeling. Parenting a teenager is hard at the best of times. We all have times where we feel burnt out and can't cope. Perhaps your neurodivergence makes that especially challenging for her and she needs a bit of time to gather herself and look after her own mental health. If she's choosing to stay away and only communicate by text it's because she's trying to protect you both from something she may say or do that she will regret because she's at the end of her rope.

I am sure she is not 'ignorant' of your issues but maybe she has some issues of her own, like exhaustion or money worries, or anything really. There is tons of stuff that goes on for parents that we hide from our children, but we will occasionally have meltdowns of our own. None of us are perfect. Parents are just confused people muddling through and doing their best.

Has there been a bad argument recently or something particular that has triggered this withdrawal in her? Is your dad living at home with you? Do you have siblings? Do you think your mum might be unwell or unhappy?

i finally found out the meaning and ill write her a letter. it was due to something i said. before, she'd constantly yell at me to get ready, make me feel really shitty about myself. one day though, i said "why don't you ever shut up? all you do is yell at me when im trying my hardest" or something. i have bad memory. i feel mildly guilty.

I'm sorry that you are going through this but it's also really good that you are trying to sort it. Writing things down about your feelings, what has happened or whatever is a brilliant idea and will give you a chance to put it all down without any argument. It also gives mum time on her own to read it all and think about things.
As for the food and recipes etc, there are lots of ideas online and there are also lots of people here on mumsnet that have put loads of different recipes and ideas for meals, have a good look through. A lot are for easy, cheap meals on a budget too. I hope you can get things sorted, life can be difficult sometimes.