What is he looking for ?

[hippopandamouse]

Beginning of the year I got a friend request off a guy I knew years ago in highschool. Some messages have been exchanged and initially I thought he was just catching up with me. Nothing dodgy on my part, just nice to see how he’s doing.

Anyway he quite quickly changed the tone of the conversation and was calling me “gorgeous” and telling me about what he wears for work. I jokingly said I wear a dressing gown for standing in the kitchen (I work from home). What a mistake that was haha, he started going on about “easy access” and how he thought that was sexy 😂🫣

From my profile he can clearly see I have a partner and 3 children! What on earth does he hope to achieve?! Why speak to someone like that who’s in a relationship?

One of his best friends is mutual friends with my partner too!

Just a bit of a ramble as I’ve got nobody to talk to about this 😂 I’ve just left his last message on read, not planning to reply!

15 year old me would be absolutely gutted he’s just like the rest of them haha!!

Your tone is really incongruent to the sleazy messages he’s sending
Hes a sleaze trying it on, come on you’re not that naive
can’t fathom all your emoji 😂 you need to tell him fuck off

I think you need to let him know he is being presumptuous and that was not your intention for communication. Then leave it.

He's hoping you're a bored housewife who's up for a bunk up or some sexting to assist his wank.

I'm guessing he does this with lots of women. Stroked his ego that he could have you by clicking his fingers.

You have incredibly poor boundaries, does your partner know you are flirting with randoms from your past?

He's looking for a free thrill.

You're in his wank bank.

As soon as he changed tack I would have blocked him.

Seriously? He's just a sleazy chancer obviously. Why do you even care? Just block and don't give him another thought.

Some men do this to loads and loads of women, regardless of marital status (yours or theirs). They’re not looking for a relationship and almost certainly not even an actual affair - they’re trying it for some no strings attached sexting, basically. I would just block him immediately, personally.

In the halcyon days of Twitter before it was full of Nazis and was just people having a laugh, men would occasionally get outed for this, because they always forgot that women talk to each other about this stuff. One woman would say ‘Ugh, just had to block this sleaze bag, seems like a lovely guy until he turned up in my DMs talking about my tits’ and then invariably a dozen of us would say ‘Oh HIM, yeah, he did that to me too’.

One of my own Twitter sex-pests, as well as knowing I have a partner, literally had a photo of himself with his wife and kids as his profile pic. Such grim behaviour.