Dating confusion

[WorthyPeachKoala]

What does it mean when a man says he's not ready for a relationship and says he wants to move slowly but acts like he wants more.

He just wants a shag.

He just wants sex with no commitment. But isn’t going to tell you this. He’ll string you along for as long as you let him. If that’s what you want then it’s ok. If it’s not then find someone who’s ready to put some effort in.

Exactly what pps said. He's told you that he doesn't want a relationship with you and will remind you of that if you have sex with him then expect to progress to a bf/gf situation.

If someone likes you enough to want a proper relationship with you they will make it very clear! Any vagueness is a bad sign.

He wants to get you to fall for him for the sex, attention and ego-boost, but as soon as you want something more than casual, he'll pull the "I'm not ready and I told you that" card.

Yes he just wants sex basically.

Where did you see him? Is he easy to just avoid in future?

He wants to get a few shags before he disappears telling you he was honest about not wanting a relationship

He just wants to shag around, sometimes they are already in a relationship or seeing someone else.

Nailed it

No strings sex.

It's kind of obvious.

No strings sex is on offer, if you want a FB.

Yep, intimacy without commitment.

Men who say they are not ready for a relationship are telling you that they aren't ready for a relationship. Tell him you are looking for something more intentional and intimate, and wave him goodbye!

He's keeping his options open.

If you continue to date/have sex - he can drop you at any time and remind you that he said he didn't want a relationship.

If you want something casual too thats fine - at least you know where you stand. If you are looking for a committed relationship then you need to tell him that and move on.

My three most recent experiences of men not wanting a relationship : 1) just wanted sex and moved on when a more attractive prospect became available 2) just wanted to be friends but did take up quite a lot of my time 3) had a quick change of mind and three months later we were bf/gf and on holiday together.

It takes all sorts, people are unpredictable and change their minds a lot. In all three it did signal that they were honest about their feelings at the time.

He just wants a poke in the whiskers

@SmugglersHaunt this made me chuckle! Why have I never heard this phrase before?

Let him come back if he ever is

It's funny how their 'taking things slowly' never includes sexual intimacy.

Very true