would you be worried?

[ifhmel]

I'm starting to worry now but not sure if I'm being dramatic or if I'm right to feel this way..

Been friends with a man since 1999. Never romantic, always platnoic. We met when we lived next door to each other, I moved away five years ago and we no longer live near each other but we did keep in touch via whatsapp etc and I stayed at his place recently when I had to work for a week in his Town.

Last spoke to him 9 days ago and not heard from him since. he called me telling me he was thinking of getting a new job, spoke for about three hours then nothing.

I sent him a message on whatsapp four days ago that needed a reply by yesterday afternoon, I have just checked whatsapp now and I no longer see his profile picture or status or his online status. Calling him goes straight to voicemail without ringing.

Not sure at this point if I should be worried or if I have been blocked..

He would have zero reason to block me, we haven't fallen out or argued, the message I needed an answer to was important and left me in the lurch. he doesn't use social media and never has so I can't check anything to see if he is active. Live about 250 miles away from each other now so i can't just call round either. His mum passed away a year ago and he has no other family so i can't message anyone to ask if he's ok..

If he's blocked me i will be confused but respect his decision but can't shake this worried feeling as he has never done anything like this before, he has never ignored a message from me even if he replies the next day if he's busy with work or whatever.

would you be worried or does it sound like I'm blocked?

Can you ask the police to do a welfare check? But send your friend a message to warn him what you are doing so it doesn't seem like stalking by proxy when the police show up at his door.

Text him again on WhatsApp asking is all ok and that you’re worried - does the message have one tick, or two?

Could he possibly have deleted WhatsApp altogether? Would he have form for breaking/losing his phone?

Could you ring his workplace?

is he vulnerable.

like a pp said, drop him a message say you're worried and if you don't hear from him by tomorrow you might ask for a welfare check.

Have you tried texting instead of WA?

Could you try ringing off someone else's phone? Texting not WhatsApping?

I'm not sure why the only options are either something worrying, like's he's gone missing, or he's blocked you? I mean, do you have any reason to think he's vulnerable? Maybe he's just decided to take a step back from being in contact with people for a bit.

What exactly are you worrying about? If he's had an accident or dead, his whatsapp wouldn't be showing that he's blocked you. If he's blocked you or came off WhatsApp then it's of his own accord. With him living 250 miles away I don't think there's much you can do. Maybe try ringing him and after that, I'd leave it. I've had to block people on whatsapp for varying reasons, probably reasons that they would not understand. People sometimes just want to stop communicating with another person and you have to respect that.

Personally I'd give the police a call on a non-urgent number, you've known him a long enough time to be able to gauge if this is unusual behaviour.

You say you asked him something very important and urgent that needed an answer by a specific date. Could the nature of this question have freaked him out? If it was a favour he was uncomfortable doing he might not have felt he knew how to say no? Or could it have annoyed him? Other than that I wouldn't assume he's dead or anything. Just try him again and say you're a bit worried and hope he's ok.

Bottom line, you've known him ages. Unless the matter you were awaiting a response on was potentially offensive, I think it's most likely to be a phone issue. Most people would understand a welfare check though if you can't reach them any other way. I would not take it amiss that someone had worried about me and taken it upon themselves to make sure I was ok.

I would try calling from another number first though. I once got a new phone and blocked my then boyfriend by accident. I thought he had ghosted me!!

He may have lost his phone or broken it. If this is out of character I’d try calling his work (or emailing him there).

You can tell if you're blocked on WA. Single tick and you can't see their profile picture any more.

If he's not typically late replying I'd try from another number and if no joy send another saying....I'm concerned about you, please can you answer that you're OK.

Strong no to welfare check. If it were me I would be really annoyed if someone did this to me without a VERY real justification for concern. Which doesn't apply here

It is most likely that he has blocked you. Maybe due to the nature of your request, or because he didn't like you staying with him (maybe he fears this might become a habit), or he simply wants to maintain a distance.

Send him a very brief email, but if he doesn't respond you should leave it.

He's possibly lost his phone, then blocked it so no one can access it. He might appear back on WhatsApp once he gets another phone but unless he's backed up his chats he won't see messages sent previously (I think anyway!?).

Have you tried calling or messaging by regular text?