Cheating husband

[Sarahami]

Hi ladies, so my husband had a one night stand apparently last year September. I found out in October. I chose to forgive him and then last week, he decided to walk out on me and our 4 children. He said he doesn’t know if he wants to be with me and doesn’t know if he loves me. I’m so lost. Yes I did nag at him to be more present to show me he’s changing but for him to just up and leave. I never did him wrong. How could he treat me like that. My heart is shattered.

Fuck him. He should have been gone when you found out.

He will probably crawl back when he has a wobble so make sure he can’t.

Yes, fuck him.

Move on.

I know, I just don’t understand my throat process and why I still want him back. But I am being strong and not letting him back. I forgave him the first time because I thought I was doing right by my kids.

he made me feel so worthless and so embarrassing that he doesn’t want me. Might not be the prettiest girl in the room but I know my heart is one of a kind. I show so much love and respect and kindness to everyone. It’s a shame he didn’t see my worth.

We have been together 20 years. So it’s hard for me. But for him I guess it meant nothing.

See a divorce lawyer this week.
Tell all your friends and family so they can support you.
Apply for child maintenance to the CMS.

How are your kids coping ?

Sometimes I feel telling the full family is just more problematic. But they do all know. Kids know but don’t know about cheating.

I just can’t get my head around how good I was to him and how he just cut off his feelings.

when will I stop loving him? I wish I didn’t. Wish I could switch off. My eldest keeps asking when his dad is coming back home. He sees the kids on a Saturday

one minute I want him back the next I don’t.

I have also got in contact with NHS to start therapy.

It’s been 3 weeks of no contact with him. Kids are struggling today.

DIVORCE!

My heart hurts for you. I'm so sorry he has done this.

Do you suspect he is still seeing the OW

As an older woman, I would be thinking about you and your family and how you would manage if you split up. Sometimes it’s better to still live with the cheating partner than having to struggle financially and be stressed.

Make a life for yourself outside the home with hobbies, more friends and fun things.
If it’s easier with him being there then carry on but don’t rely on him as much. He probably doesn’t want to leave as it’s too much hassle and wants to be with his kids which is a good thing. As long as he is being kind and helpful then if you are okay with it is at the moment carry on until you feel starting enough to change or not change it .

Many men and woman have long term hidden affairs. I think I would rather know and then it was my choice how to move forward.
be kind to yourself and knowing all make a life that might not involve him in the future.

He’s a very unkind rotten person who has taken your kindness for weakness. Move on ffs he’ll not change.