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Dollydimpledoo · 02/03/2025 10:10

Happy Sunday , I have an situation that's been bothering me for a while and am now at the point of walking out
My husband and I v been married for 20 years and have grown up kids, we both work full time and have our own hobbies. I like a night out like most people, maybe once/twice month and like to do things with my family/friends, meals , short breaks and see places etc
My husband is going to the pub 4/5 times a week and drinking then driving next day. This is causing major fights between us, he's 49 and doesn't understand the impact of heavy drinking.. I have had alcoholism in my family and can see how the pattern starts, it scares me .
He won't listen, says I m boring and need to get a life.. I have a life, just because I don't drink everyday am busy with family, friends, activities,. holidays etc.
The money to that he spends on alcohol to it's awful, yeh it's his wages, do as you please but god, he could have lots of savings.
There is no family days, everything evolves around the pub this has went on now for 2 years and I feel I have nagged enough that I m sick of hearing my own voice.

What would you do in this situation?

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PashaMinaMio · 02/03/2025 10:41

I’d get my proverbial ducks in a row and leave him.
He is never going to change.

You know all this and I might sound harsh but he might end up in prison for drink driving the following day if he kills someone or at best gets breathalysed for some other road issue. Can you live with that?

Furthermore, how are you currently coping, presumably sleeping next to a man, whose breath smells like a sour brewery?

Dollydimpledoo · 02/03/2025 11:01

Been in separate rooms for a while the snoring is awful.
I do feel that something major is going to happen before he wakes up and realises

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