husband in bad mood for fam shoot

[MumDaisy1980]

i Am very not happy
we did a family photoshoot today
been looking forward to it
moment before the shoot husband gone bad mood
and also during the shoot he just put up this ugly face
wasted all the shoot money , though not yet see the photos. But it’s fake smiles to just get the shoot done.
at night he said he felt bad
what’s the point?
I feel so angry upset and everything but at the same time feel no point to argue I am tired
I am thinking to arrange the next shoot with me and my baby only. What do you think?
if you were me what would you do?

thanks!!

Too many shoots in your post 😆.

Do one without him.

What was he cross about? Does he ruin things often, and is it only things that you have organised? For example, if he went to watch a football match would he be sulky?

No idea. I hate photoshoots- we wouldn't do one ever.

I’d do one without him. No good him apologising now, he spoilt it. And you aren’t going to want to look back on the photos as it will give bad memories of his behaviour

Sulky man-child.
You are probably better off without him.
Make him pay for another photoshoot when he grows up a bit.
Brat.

You lost me at the word fam.
Me fam shoot enit bro thats all that come to my mind.

Yes don't include him next time

Just do one with you and your baby. What a knob. It's his fault he won't be in it.

If he doesn't like photoshoots then there's not much point in forcing him to do them. Out of interest, are you Slavic and your husband British? There are very differing attitudes to photoshoots and the importance of them between certain cultures

thanks all for quick reply.

@vodkaredbullgirl yes haha just noticed that

@loropianalover for today just in hangry mode . But he had the whole morning (while I got professional make up done) to make himself some decent food to eat.

yes he ruined things often. The Valentine’s Day just passed, he wasted the whole 5* hotel experience. I asked him not to book on the v day becoz of the rip off cost , he insisted. After booked, he then said he had to work that day and can’t check in for 3 pm to make the most of it. Then when we depart for the hotel for 6pm, he decided to use his vintage car and it broke down 5 mins we left the house, we have no time to spare for travelling to the dinner . The night ended up room service , with me have to arrange the food from limited choice and he had a go at me because he stressed about his car. Next day meant to have room service for breakfast included in the price but he chose to head down for breakfast . we already tired and definitely a lie jn is better. I didn’t know about included room breakfast until later after checked out.

I don’t like he waste money like this. I found it’s a very poor trait.

many example of him ruining things and I think enough to publish a book

Interesting point!

not think it’s about him don’t like photoshoot. He showed no sign he dislike. But we are ordinary people, feel a bit stiff when doing shoot in the beginning.

Ruining happy occasions is classic narcissistic behaviour.

Get out now.
There is no changing him.

Are you going to stay married to this man? Repeatedly ruining your days?

The entire point of him is for enhancing your life, if he's failing to do that basic thing, consider why you're allowing him in your life.

Also I want to ask
the shoot is done but the photos are not selected
i am tempted to select all the photos only with me and baby
even the group photos with him in it .. just forget them
what do you think?

Today plan for a walk in the park
the very nothing special day
but it’s sth for the baby (as we hardly go out at all)
he dressed up for the day 🤦🏻‍♀️
like almost like try to make up for it
contrary I don’t care
no make up and super casual

As an asides, why do people chime in to say this stuff?
It's not helpful, just sneering.

Buy only the photos you like - you never know he may look ok in one of them. Personally I would never do one again (other than for weddings etc). I disliked the photos we got from the only one we did with our first child and bought as few as I felt I could get away with.

Partly it was due to us all wearing clashing outfits, something I didn't consider beforehand (this was pre instragram etc), partly the difficulty of getting a wriggly toddler to sit still.

As for the rest, consider whether he is simply disorganised (so take over yourself), or deliberately sabotaging.

It is so common for men to ruin these photoshoots. My ex would also spoil any kind of family occasion so I can sympathise. It's not a good sign.

Ruining family occasions is definitely a thing some people like to do, whether it's Christmas, birthdays, trips or a photoshoot.

Or it could be he resents the cost - was it an expensive thing? I'm wondering if you're from outside the UK and place more importance on it than he does?