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Tell me it gets easier on the soul? Split from ex and 2 kids

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Drearycommuter · 28/02/2025 12:03

Hi, I split from my ex 18 months ago and finding life really challenging.

He lives about 15 mins away and we split childcare about 60 (me):40 (him). I find dealing with my DD's reaction so sad and intense - she's now very emotional and upset all the time. Asks all the time for us to get back together. School involved. Me and her dad get on well still.

She doesn't yet know we need to sell the house and move 200 miles away for somewhere we can afford (we will move with dad so she will see see him). I can't afford anywhere locally.

Being a working parent is challenging at the best of times but feels a million times harder.

Basically I can't put the separation genie back in the bottle, and nor can I pretend I've fallen back in love with my ex, but this is financially, adminstratively, emotionally and spiritually enormously hard.

Is there anyone who has done it who can reassure me it gets easier? I'd love to crawl back into bed right now but got work and then do childcare. I am trying my very hardest not to show the kids how I'm feeling. It's exhausting. I feel so desolate.

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SugarSpice2020 · 22/05/2025 15:17

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Has it got any easier since this post? Have you moved? And - despite not being in love any more - have you & ex considered getting back together for practical reasons? (Still maybe living separate emotional lives).

do you have relatives nearby & good friends? I’m sure things will get easier but I can imagine how difficult it is now.

my hubby & I not getting on well emotionally & considering a ‘split’ so we’d be free to meet others / date if we wanted. But still living together for sake of our child mostly. (Also as I’m from uk but living in USA where he’s from, I think divorcing would be really hard; not like I can leave with our child ).

sending you a big hug, let us know how are you! X

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