Me (26F) and a close guy friend (26M) have known each other for about 6 years. We met in college and have been friends ever since.
Our relationship have always been platonic but last year, when he was back in our hometown, we ended up sleeping together after a night out. We both knew at the time that it was probably a bad idea, but we did it anyway.
Afterward, we texted about it. I told him I was open to exploring things between us and admitted that I had a crush on him when we first met. However, he said he wasn't interested in anything romantic, as his past long-distance relationship had gone badly, and he didn't want to risk our friendship. I accepted and understood his decision, and we continued being friends, texting and interacting like we always had.
Last week, I suggested we hang out to watch the new Marvel movie. He told me it would be better if I came to his city because he had something important to do the next day, making it difficult for him to come to our hometown. So, I went to see him.
To be honest, it was a bit awkward-this was the first time we were meeting in person since what happened. Deep down, I had a little hope, especially because he was being really sweet that day-cuddling me and holding my hands. But I wasn't going to act on it because our friendship means a lot to me, I genuinely enjoy spending time with him, and I respect his decision.
That's why it hurt a little when, at the end of the night, he put a pillow wall between us. It felt distant and cold, and I've never felt that rejected before. Now, I can't help but feel like a pushover for even suggesting we hang out.
Why would he do that?
Maybe he was trying to set clear boundaries so I wouldn't get the wrong idea. Maybe it was that bad for him. Or maybe he's interested in someone new. Idk but it sucked-a lot as a friend!!