Not much sleep for me!

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Hello all,
My DH and I go to bed around 10pm each night.
I would really like not to have my sleep interrupted and get the full 7-9 hours for health reasons and a family susceptible to dementia. However, DH frequently (most nights) gets up around 4am, goes downstairs, makes a cup of tea and the TV goes on albeit quietly. God knows what he’s watching at that hour. I’ve found out about him watching porn in the past.
I can’t get back to sleep after waking at 4am and am always shattered the next day. It ruins my quality of life and he complains about me being grumpy. I have tried sleeping in the spare room but still hear him get up in the night. Sometimes I feel he is making a noise deliberately to wake me. Who knows?
I look forward to holidays, my only break and would really like to go abroad for some health giving sunshine but he refuses as he is scared to go out of the uk due to previous health problems which are now clear. He also has refused to renew his passport.
I’m at my wit’s end and don’t really know why I’m posting - just need to vent somewhere. I’m feeling trapped.
TIA if you have read this far.

Earplugs for you or headphones for him

Go on holiday with a friend, family member or on your own. You don't have to have your life dictated by his fears/preferences.

It might help you reset your sleeping pattern to get away too.

It might be that you're partially on high alert for him getting up so it wakes you more easily? I'd move into the spare room permanently and use earplugs or white noise.

If you do think he's waking you deliberately, then you need to consider the relationship as a whole, because if he's purposely subjecting you to sleep deprivation, it's unlikely it's the only abuse.

@category12 perfect response. Well said.

Loop earplugs! They've recently brought out sleep specific ones (yet to try as the 'quiet' ones are good enough) I couldn't be without them now.

Does it wake you and then keep you awake because you're worried it's porn?