Husband - presence few days a year ?

[MumDaisy1980]

in short , I feel like I am in a relationship with my husband only few days a year. Being said I meant the special days valentine day , birthdays, xmas . He always buy gift and ‘presence’, being his loving self. Happy times.

but daily life, I feel like cooking for two and all the things along with it. He not even greet me or little kiss or little cuddle. I feel like the other 360 days he is not there but during family events I still have to come along . I told him recently, then he just being loving self for one extra day and throw out of the window. He could be quite rude to me also, almost like when he doesn’t feel like it, he just talked to me in very bad tone. I found it very odd. When I voice that he is rude and he would always said it’s me I am rude. Very bizzare.

any husband like that too? No effort daily life but come to special occasions deliver perfectly.

This sounds horrible. He seems to have completely detached from you.

How long have you been married?
Any children?
Do you share a bed?

Thanks!! Detached is the right word!

yay we know each other more than a decade, married for half a decade. Have a 10month old baby.

I hope it’s just a stage of married life. Fundamentally he loves me, as in being responsible. But no the sweet talk , no affection. Not like a bad boy haha

perhaps can’t have it all. But happy to hear similar experience or advice !