dating preferences

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I was reading a discussion on another forum about only dating people from your own race or having a preference with race when it comes to dating. Some people felt it was racist to not date outside of your own race. I personally don't think it is and I think it's fine to have a preference when dating. What do other people think? I don't think it's any different to any other preferences when dating like height, age..

I think being totally closed to other races is racist. But often people will move in circles with predominantly people of their own race and that’s just the way it is and not in itself racist. I’m in a mixed marriage and I’ve loved the blend of cultures. You do miss some things as in some areas our life experience has been so different, but it’s way more positive than negative.

People generally tend to associate with people from the same or similar cultural backgrounds to them, so it’s more likely people will naturally date within their own race. However, I do think it’s odd to say “I would never date a black/asian/other person” because how can you possible know that without basing everything on their race? I understand cultural differences can be an obstacle within relationships but to write someone off completely because of their race is crazy.

I think that we don't have any control or influence over other people's sexual preferences so there's no point analysing it. Some people may be missing out because they are closed off but that's their choice.

I do think it's bad manners in general to advertise what you don't want (no one under 6'/bigger than a size 12/not white or whatever) however I get the counter argument it's so no one is eating their time.

Wasting not eating!

I'm not physically attracted to Asian men, at all. I can find them handsome but physically there's no response. So I don't date Asian men. Guess that makes me racist according to some.

Apparently so but I feel the same way. there's definitely certain races i wouldn't date. i just don't think that makes someone racist though. you can't help attraction or lack of.

We’re attracted to who we’re attracted to. It’s not racist not to be attracted to a certain ethnicity or to be extremely attracted to for example blue eyed blondes.

Me and my friend always joke that we won’t ever be after the same man as I go for tall, well built white men and she’s into shorter black guys.

I’ve found chatting platforms like omegle alternatives useful for getting a feel for different personalities before even thinking about meeting anyone. Some people are much more open or genuine in a casual chat setting, and it helped me figure out what kind of vibe I liked before committing to a proper date. It’s not foolproof, but it was helpful during a weird dating stage.

Hinge I believe is the only app that allows you to filter by race. Grindr (a complete different app!) received a lot of media pressure to remove their racial filter even though it was popular with users. The BBC reported on it.

There are likely to be racial preferences but people are unwilling to admit it for fear of being seen as racist.

I read somewhere that black women struggle the most with OLD.

Apparent 9% of relationships in the UK are interracial, according to the census. But anything outside of white British, so white British and white Polish is deemed interracial by the government.