For anyone who is not massively close to their parents, have you read or done anything (therapy aside!) that has reassured you about/given you a bit of a model for relationships with your own DC?
My relationship with my parents isn't awful but it doesn't come very naturally. Growing up, my DF was a mix of very loving or very stressed/angry, and left a lot to my DM. My DM on the other hand was super practical, took care of absolutely everything to do with us, but perhaps not that emotionally available. Nowadays they're still together but have very different interests and don't get along that well. I also have an older sibling who has very little to do with them, and now seem to have adopted a sort of peacekeeper role, which never feels particularly functional.
Now that I have my own DD I'm a bit worried I'm going to let her down because I don't have a straightforward reference point. DH (who is great) has reassured me but has his own concerns as he has a complicated family dynamic too.
A lot of this is probably anxiety so I'm optimistic that there must be some good books etc. out there. Does anyone have any wisdom? Thank you!