I have been with my boyfriend over three years and we have a young baby together.
In the past there have been instances of drunken messages to women but nothing more. I decided to forgive him and move on from it(silly me).
Now me and my cousin have always been close, but she is a compulsive liar and is very well known for telling lies in the family.
About three months ago, a girl reached out to me regarding her boyfriend. At first she was really angry and told me, that me and my cousin had been sleeping with her boyfriend. I was so confused, I soon realised that this was a guy I had been seeing about 5 years ago. She had gone through his phone and found very old messages of me speaking to him, I didn’t know at the time he had a girlfriend. So this was all news to me, but what was worse is she let me know that my cousin had been sleeping with him at the same time behind my back, I had no idea about this. My cousin was very aware of me and this guy as I would talk to her about him. I confronted my cousin and she claims this was all a lie, even though the girl had sent proof. I decided to move on from this because it had happened so many years ago, I didn’t really care and I was in a whole new relationship with my current partner and had a baby.
Fast forward to Saturday, it was my son’s birthday. We had a birthday party at my aunties then my cousin decided to come home with us to continue the celebration. All fine. The next day she came over and I made dinner, nothing to report. We had a good day.
Yesterday, I was scrolling on his phone to send the videos from my son’s party. On a whim, I decided to check his messages. In his recycle bin I saw a message to my cousin that said “ you are being so cheeky, I want to feel that tight little …..” I don’t know if anything else was deleted. I confronted him and he completely denied it so I kicked him out. My cousin is acting oblivious and claims that she never received the message even though it was delivered. I blocked her. I feel that even if nothing happened between them, why wouldn’t she tell me he had messaged her.
It makes me wonder as there has been quite a few times they have been alone together when I’ve been in hospital or they’ve stayed up talking and I’ve gone to bed. I trusted them both so wouldn’t expect this. I’m shocked and angry. I don’t know what I’m expecting here but just wanted to vent I guess. Thanks for reading if you got this far.